How Does Appearance Influence Sex?

Many women admit that their desire for sex depends on how they feel that day. If they feel awkward or they are not satisfied with their looks, they may eventually agree to quick sex, under the sheets without lights on. But in the days when they are thinner and feel more attractive (changes that are seen only by them), they are ready for adventures in the bed. The fact that they are together with their partner for a long period of time and that they don’t have major fluctuations in their weight doesn’t really matter. There is something inside that doesn’t let them be peaceful. There are many women who act like they are tired and lack of interest in sexual activity when they feel that their belly is bloated and that their butt is too big. They are aware that their partners don’t notice these flaws, but they don’t want to discuss about these feelings with them.

It is interesting that many men think that they are more sexually attractive than they actually are while the situation is opposite when it comes to women. More than 80% of women are not satisfied with their appearance. According to a study conducted in Melbourne, Australia not while ago, women in their 30s and 40s are suffering from lowered libido and this phenomenon cannot be associated with the change of the levels of hormones, but only because of the physical changes.

For most women the feeling of unattractiveness is not really associated with the appearance, but with an innate sense of self-confidence. Most women have an imposed idea about how a sexy woman should look like. The majority still believes in clichés like long legs, narrow waist and large breasts.

The general obsession with celebrity bodies represents an additional burden. The feminine ideal is a lot less flexible than men’s ideal which makes it much harder to achieve.

Psychologists who deal with this problem have noted that most women have a completely distorted idea about their appearance. Women always focus on the things that make them less attractive like chubby legs or flabby belly. This is not a surprise because we all faced with the images of “perfect” women in the media.

It is still not clear why some persons with only few extra pounds enjoy sex while others avoid it. Psychologists believe that in this case there is probably a deeper reason why a person is sexually inhibited and focusing attention on body weight serves only as a mask that hides the bigger problems. It is possible that the real reasons are fatigue, depression, or dating a wrong partner (a partner that doesn’t provide support). It is also possible that you are not practicing sex life that you want.

It is good to know that in most cases all these complaints from women about their own bodies don’t represent a huge problem for men. They don’t see them and on the contrary, they find their partner attractive thus having better sexual life.

Everyone should become aware of the fact that inner sexuality has nothing to do with how you look and how others see you. What matters is how you feel. Work on your self-confidence and enjoy sex.